Students start ministry to men with ponytails

ST. PAUL – College students from a Bible school here have started an unusual outreach program to men with ponytails.

“We consider them a distinct unreached people group,” says Bart NKomo, 23, from St. Paul Bible College. “That ponytail is really a cry for help.”

The group of 13 sophomores and juniors pioneered their effort by visiting nature food stores, biker bars, Dead concerts and music shops – places with high concentrations of ponytailed men.


I'd love to hear your thoughts :)

(I'll reveal my source after a few comments)

My final week under House Arrest (5 of 7)

Sitting here thinking that I have a couple of hours left is incredible. In all honesty, I actually wondered many times if this day would actually come… Tomorrow my life will change for the better. I’m both nervous and excited! Weird I know… let me explain why I feel this way.

For some, well… actually for most, my life will just go back to normal. For me however, my life takes on a whole new perspective!

Why?

Well… my life is not going back to what it was before my accident! It’s taking on a whole new sphere… Now, when I’m walking on the beach and I feel the sand between my toes, I won’t take it for granted as I used to. Now I will feel the sensation of freedom running between my toes… I will smell the scent of freedom which the ocean gives off…

Freedom has taken and will take on a whole new perspective for me.

Being allowed out of my house is not quite the same as what it used to be… nor will it ever be!

HERE’S TO MY NEW LIFE!!!

My final week under House Arrest (4 of 7)

Re-Post of House Arrest (4 of 4)

What I’ve learned

Going through something traumatic may not be great in ones eyes at that moment. It may just seem like the world is collapsing around you and all hell is breaking loose… Well, it seemed like that for me on the day of my accident. I can still recall the sounds of the helicopter’s propellers, the sounds of the police radios, the ambulance sirens… It was a rough day, I can’t deny that. I’ll even admit that for a small amount of time God was not the most popular person on my list. We went from buddies to me thinking that He was (because this is not a 18 and over blog, I have decided to remove the bad words from this sentence).

Well, all was not lost. A friend told me that I really inspired her with my faith as she drove away from the accident site. On her way to take me home, I turned to her with tears in my eyes and said, “I’m not sure what He’s up to, but I know God will pull me through this and He does have a plan.” As I slowly move on in time an think back, I’m beginning to recall conversations like that. It still blows my mind that I was that faithful to God (despite my short lived temper out burst mentioned earlier). So, that just goes to show that I’m still learning and probably will for many years to come.

What I have learned however which I feel so many take for granted is the freedom which is granted in Christ. So many times I hear people say that they are free in Christ and I now can’t help but wonder if they really are aware what it truly means to be free in Christ. It hurt, a lot, when I sat in the common room at my college and watched the students of the college laughing and giggling, unaware of just what freedom is. Unaware of the gift that has so freely been given to them. Unaware of what it truly means to be free.

I can remember going home and lying in my bed at night wondering what was going to happen to me. I lost weight, I couldn’t sleep, my marks at college dropped… I was a wreck, until it hit me. Paul’s letter to the church of Philippi suddenly took on a whole new perspective. I was free in Christ… I was able to find the true meaning of freedom and it was GREAT. I was eventually free and I was lead towards a greater understanding of joy. I now feel I can relate to the Apostle Paul as he sat in a prison cell, with minimal food and water, possibly not even sure if he’d make it to the next day or not and a worry in his mind. I always thought this guy (Paul) was a psycho… But now… now I know from where the letter was written. The letter is amazingly beautiful!!! I have never before read such a heart felt letter!!!

Even as I write this blog, I’m having difficulty keeping it short. I just want to go on and on and on about the freedom in the true and living God I NOW KNOW. The true joy found in suffering for Christ… There is just so much and I honestly could probably do a whole week on what I’ve learned from this experience… If you asked me to sum up my feelings, I’d ask you to watch an eagle fly… the image says all I’d say.

I hope this past week has in some way helped answer some of the questions you may have had revolving my whole ordeal. In the very same breathe, I hope that in some way I’ve been able to help you think about your rough patches in life and to make you realize, they more beautiful then you think…

Have you really experienced the freedom Paul talks about? Do you know of this joy he talks about?

My final week under House Arrest (3 of 7)

Re-Post of House Arrest (3 of 4)

How I stay sane well spending so much time at home

Let me start off by stating that it is not easy. I do have my days where I feel like I’m sitting in a cage while the world carries on spinning around me. It has been a humbling experience for me to experience what it means to be placed under house as it shows one that whether or not you’re apart of the world, it’s going to carry on spinning.

Firstly I consider myself fortunate to be doing my time in an actual house. During my various meetings at the Correctional Department in Cape Town, I have meet many who are in a far worse state then I. I have meet some who are having to do their time in a shack within a informal settlement. This is heart breaking and again reminds me that despite my situation, I am better of then many others.

Being a student, I am always busy, be it with readings, assignments, presentations etc. It is possibly the one thing that grabs my time and really consumes it. During the college terms, I barely feel my house arrest as I barely have time to even think about. However, the terms at college do come to an end and I am then faced with the reality of what being under house arrest means. It is challenging as I find things to keep my mind busy.

I am fortunate enough to have a internet connection at home, so I use a large amount of my time reading and blogging online. Apart from that, I do play the occasional online game... I must also admit, (not that I'm sorry for it) that my personal library has grown quite substantially as I now have quite a large amount of time to spend reading. But as my lecturers keep saying, "That's a goooooood thing!!!"

I have also used the time in a practical manner to attack things that need to be done around the house. The past 4 months I have spent time painting, with my ipod in my pocket keeping me going. It's amazing how much information is available out there in terms of podcasts...

There are many other small things which keep me going, but these are the general things I do to get me from day to day…

Tomorrow I will share what it is that I have learned from being under house arrest. I will share how I have taken what seems to be a horrific and unfair event for many, and changed it into what I believe to be a blessing from God.

If you were under house arrest, how would you keep yourself busy?

My final week under House Arrest (2 of 7)

My apologies for not posting this yesterday! Today will I will do a double post to get you all back to speed.With that said, this is the second installment of "House Arrest."

House Arrest (2 of 4)

So what does being under house arrest mean?

Well, being under house arrest is really not as bad as many seem to think it is. Although, I must admit I am better off then many others who are under house arrest. Basically what being under house arrest means is that I’m in jail but not really in jail. Thank God for that!!! In my case, my jail cell is my house.

With the jail concept in mind, you’ll now begin to understand the various rights that have been taken away from me. So, I’m therefore not allowed off my property unless I have been granted permission by my parole officer. At times this can be a pain, but at others, it sometimes is beneficial for me. Obviously because I’m under house arrest my entire life has not been taken away from me. Therefore, I am still expected to make money in order to survive as well as obtain an education for myself.

With this in mind, I am therefore ONLY allowed to be on one of the following properties: My college campus, my employers property, my house and then once a week I am entitled to attend a church service. On Saturdays, I am then required to do a min of 5 hours community service at my local police station. These generally means basic clean up of the station. After my community service, I am granted 5 hours free time (which I get on a weekly basis) to do with as I please. Oh and before I forget, I don’t wear a ankle bracelet like the Americans do (Thank God!!!). I just get surprise checks at my residence by various correctional officers… You get used to them after a while, even if it’s at 3am…

I hope this in some way helps to explain what it means for one to be under house arrest… Tomorrow I will share how it is that I’ve trained myself to remain calm and focused. I’ll share what it is that I do to keep my mind in shape and how I actually enjoy my time at home…

Have you got any questions relating house arrest? Have you experienced anything similar or know of someone who has?

My final week under House Arrest (1 of 7)

For the past 5 days people have been asking me what it is I’m counting down to. It is for that very reason I thought it would be a good idea to bring my blogging sabbatical to an end and bring my passion for blogging back to the surface. I’ve enjoyed the break…

So, what I’d like to do over the next 6 days is share my story as I have previously shared it (I will be re-posting my House Arrest Series) as well as what I have learned over the past 2 years of being confined to the piece of land I call home.

With that said, let’s dive straight in then with the first installment of “House Arrest.”

House Arrest (1 of 4)

This week I thought I would answer some of the many questions I get in relation to my house arrest… Hopefully by the end of the week I would have answered some of the questions you may be wanting to ask me…

How I landed up being under house arrest

On the 19th of February 2006, I was involved in a car accident which resulted sadly (a couple of weeks later), in a death. Because I was the only driver still alive, I was charged and summonsed to appear in the local magistrates court. It was quite a nerve wrecking experience and I would suggest to all, if at all possible, stay away. The court room seems to be an area which just sucks all the living energy out of you in a matter of minutes. If you for any reason need to spend time in the court room, surround yourself with loved ones. They are and will be your backbone…

After a year and half (more or less) of trying to defend myself and keep out of our national prison, the case was finally brought to a close. It was an emotional time for me as I stood before the magistrate and waited to hear her sentencing. It is absolutely terrifying knowing that the person in front of you has all the power in the world to end your life there and then. I can still remember the feeling of the sweat running down the back of my neck as I prayed “Lord, PLEASE! If there was ever a time I believed in you, it is now!!!”

Finally, after reading literally everything that was said throughout the case hearings (over the year and a half), she finally got to the words, “I therefore sentence you to…” Those five words determined the practical outcome of my life, whether I liked it or not. She ended off with, “24 months house arrest and no more than 18 hours community service each month for the duration of your sentence.”

The beauty of the experience was how I learned what it means to truly know the peace of Christ. So often, like many others, I would blabber on and on about the peace of Christ and how I knew it and so on… The truth was, I had no idea what it really was until I really needed to know it. My first experience within the court room was one of absolute terror. It is only by the grace of God I didn’t pass out. Those around me referred to me as a ghost. Kinda scary if you think about it…

The morning before my second appearance, I decided to pray, even if it was just a 30 second prayer. I was going to ask God for help, and I was going to believe that he would and could help me. From that morning on, I was nervous in the court room, but no where near as nervous as my first appearance. The sense of peace I felt within my heart was unbelievable and pretty much impossible to describe in words. I learned, through receiving a life changing sentence, that God’s love is real. More real than you could possibly ever imagine.

Tomorrow I will explain what it means to be under house arrest whilst fulfilling a commitment of 432 hours of community service.

Have you ever experienced a similar event where the peace of God seemed so real?

Metro cops steal R113 000

With the 2010 Soccer World Cup just around the corner, is this really the image we're wanting to portray? Not only can't you trust the guy in the street but you can't trust the police either!!!

Metro cops steal R113 000

Johannesburg - Two Johannesburg metro police officers were arrested on Thursday after allegedly robbing a man of €10 000 (R113 000) outside Montecasino in Fourways.

The officers allegedly stopped and robbed the man, who was driving from the casino, and stole his money on Wednesday night, metro police spokesperson Chief Superintendent Wayne Minnaar said.

"The victim reported the matter on Thursday morning and the two officers were arrested following an intensive investigation by the police, who then tracked the police vehicle that was patrolling in that vicinity.

"We will not tolerate corruption from officials and we will deal with any corrupt officer."

The arrested officers would appear in court soon on charges of robbery and fraud.

Minnaar could not confirm whether the man who was robbed was a European citizen or not.

"Police are still conducting investigations." - SAPA

(Story taken from here)

Passion could cause us problems...

Some people just tend to forget it's a game... and there will always be a winner and then obviously a loser... the question is, where did we go wrong in controling our passion?

I mean it's great that the supporters support their team whole heartedly, props to them!

But where did it all go wrong?

Can we afford to have events such as the one in this article happen in SA during the 2010 WC?

How do we prevent this from happening???

Uncle Scam wants you!

It's getting late... I don't usually blog this late but I really wanted to get this out in the open. I was amazed to see the story on the front page of the Cape Times titled, "Facebook users hit by scammers phishing attack."

It irritates me immensely how people do not think about what they are sharing on the net as well as what the links that they're clicking on.

I for one, do not click on any link that I feel uncomfortable with.

Emails are another area which irritate me... does it not seem weird when you get a email from some one you usually don't get an email from with the line, "Hey check this photo of you!" What about those emails from family members which are sooooo out of their character?

I know Hugh also gets frustrated with this kind of thing. I often come across blogs of his trying to explain to his readers who send him forwarded emails to open their eyes... eg. "You just won one million britian pound"

I've lost count of the times I've won a "million britian pound>" Am I the only one who is annoyed by people who don't read things properly?

Disclaimer (I openly admit that I often make mistakes whilst reading - but there needs to be a point surely, where we can spot these scams?)

Sex: Shock findings about youth

After reading this article I was bit taken back... I think we have way more to do with regards to HIV then we thought we did!!!

Sex: Shock findings about youth
12/05/2009 08:04 - (SA)
Alicestine October, Die Burger

Cape Town - HIV/Aids can be transmitted via toilet seats, and the virus can be avoided by having a bath after sex.

Recently concluded research shows that these are some of the common beliefs among teenagers in the Anglican Church.

Last year the church commissioned research aimed at better understanding what its role can be in the battle against HIV/Aids among young people.

The University of Stellenbosch's unit for religious and developmental studies conducted the research among young Anglicans between the ages of 10 and 24, in 12 Anglican dioceses across the country.

A report on the research was presented at an HIV/Aids seminar at the University of Stellenbosch last week.

More than 10% sexually active.

Amongst other things, the research showed that more than 10% of young people between the ages of 10 and 13 are sexually active.

About 38% of respondents in this age group said that the pill can prevent HIV/Aids, and 30.4% believe that HIV can be transmitted via a toilet seat.

About 27% think that HIV infection can be prevented by bathing after sex.

Of the respondents, 97.1% described themselves as Christians, while more than 98% of them believe it is important to be healthy.

Nothing wrong with fondling.

The majority (63.5%) of those who have not yet had sex, feel that it is better to have sex only within the confines of marriage, while approximately two-thirds feel that there is nothing wrong with someone fondling them.

The researchers said that some of the more shocking findings, such as those about fondling, could be attributed to respondents misunderstanding the questions.

About 90% of the respondents indicated that they are worried about HIV.

According to the report, there is a gap between the values and morals which are adhered to on the one hand, and the behaviour which is exhibited on the other hand.


Thoughts?

(Article taken from here)

0 to 100 in a matter of seconds…

I think the Church has a serious problem (nothing new there! LoL!!!). There seems to be two sides of the fence which one is expected to experience. Yet the climb over is to be done alone…

I’m talking about sex…

Christians believe that if you’re not married you should abstain. Keep to yourself. I agree whole heartedly in this as I am aware of the damage sexual relations can cause outside of marriage.

The other side of the fence is when one is in marriage. Here you are expected to have sex and if you aren’t having sexual intercourse with your partner, then the Church sees you as having marital problems. Oh and I’m all for the sex in marriage! :)

Here’s the issue: One moment you’re expected to be keeping to yourself and the next you’re expected to be going at it with full force.

What about the trip from not doing it at all to doing it at full throttle? Where is the guidance? Should there be any guidance?

Perhaps I’m the only one who thinks this way, but surely we as the Church should provide some sort of sexual guidance to the newly weds?

Your thoughts?

8-year-old Saudi girl granted a divorce after international outcry

This is a follow up to my post: "Court approves marriage of girl, 8" (Posted 20th of April 2009)


8-year-old Saudi girl granted a divorce after international outcry

May 01, 2009 Edition 1

RIYADH: An eight-year-old Saudi Arabian girl who was sold into marriage by her father has been given a divorce after an international outcry, according to Saudi media.

The marriage of the girl to a man reportedly in his 50s was annulled on Wednesday in an out-of-court settlement overseen by a new judge in the city of Onaiza, after the original judge in the case refused to bend to pressure to grant the divorce, newspapers reported.


Riyadh newspapers said the settlement was reached after the intervention in the case by an "important personality".


The girl's father had sold her last year to the man in exchange for a dowry. When her mother found out, she petitioned the court for a divorce for the girl.


The judge twice rejected her case - though he stipulated that the marriage could only be consummated after the girl reached puberty. An appeals court sent the case back to the judge to reconsider, but he again ruled against divorce.


The case garnered strong criticism from international rights groups, and foreign diplomats raised the issue quietly with the Saudi government, according to sources.


United Nations Children's Fund executive director Anne Veneman had said the child's rights were being violated. "Unicef joins many in voicing concern that child marriage contravenes accepted international standards of human rights," she said.


While child marriage is not widespread in Saudi Arabia, the traditional practice has been condoned by some clerics, who say it is supported in Islamic teachings.


Saudi judges have frequently upheld child marriages based on their interpretations of Islamic sharia law.


But last week, at least two committees of the country's legislature, the Shura Council, were discussing a new law that would set the minimum marriage age at 18. - Sapa-AFP



Any thoughts?

(Original story taken from here)

Marriage Quotes By Men...

A good mate of mine sent me these qoutes and they really made me laugh! I couldn't help but share them with you guys.

1.) I married Miss Right. I just didn't know her first name was Always.

2.) It's not true that married men live longer than single men. It only seems longer.

3.) A man was complaining to a friend: 'I had it all - money, a beautiful house, a big car, the love of a beautiful woman; then, Pow! it was all gone!' 'What happened?' asked the friend. "My wife found out.."

4.) Wife: Let's go out and have some fun tonight. Husband: Okay, but if you get home before I do, leave the hallway light on.

5.) How many men does it take to open a beer? None. It should be opened by the time she brings it to the couch.

6.) A man rushes into his house and yells to his wife, "Martha, pack up your things! I just won the lottery!" Martha replies, "Shall I pack for warm weather or cold?" The man responds, "I don't care. Just so long as you're out of the house by noon!"

7.) If your wife and a lawyer were drowning and you had to choose, would you go to lunch or to a movie?

8.) A man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is finished.

Do you know any other funny quotes?

Little white envelopes please… or not!

Ok… so we’ve started designing the invitations. Who would’ve thought that so much thought would have to go into such a small project? Well, maybe the ladies reading this would understand the amount of time taken to produce those ‘perfect’ invitations, but I’m not to sure the guys would/do.

But that’s not the purpose of this note. We’ve (Megs says its only me though) hit a slight bump which we’re trying to maneuver our way either through or alternatively over. Let me explain…

For around 2-3 years I lived on my own, thereby accumulating pretty much everything one needs to live reasonably comfortably. Ok, so Megan doesn’t approve of all of my ‘manhood’ stuff so I suppose I would have to get rid of some of the stuff. Anyway, the point is, we have what we need to live: Crockery, Cutlery, Toothpaste, Dishwashing Liquid, Toilet Paper etc.

This is where our dilemma begins to take shape…

We don’t really need anything besides the big things which I’ve already blogged about – Stove, Fridge, Washing Machine etc. Feel free to donate those things should you feel lead to do so! Lol!!!
Most people would give toasters, kettles etc. and we really don’t need two of everything, so we’re thinking of asking people to consider giving a financial gift if they were in the first place, considering giving one.

Do you think this is a rude thing to do? If not, what do you consider we do to get our request through in the politest way possible?

From the void

This past week I received an email which I thought I'd share with you guys... For obvious reasons I've removed any personal information that she shared within the message.

Below is the email:

Hi there

Well the time has dawned that I have run out of my own pearls of wisdom and require some guidance from a respected source. So technically I am asking this of you, not as my friend, but on a professional basis so to speak.
(Alternatively a good kick up the arse would also be appreciated)

So the reality of the situation is as follows... over the last 6 mths I've tried to indulge in the boys that have been throwing themselves at me (LOL as they do of course). But nothing seems to be working.

The problem in a nutshell is that I just don't feel anything - there is no spark, no emotional attachment. The thing that I do feel is that there is a void and lack of emotion. Clearly guilt is not far behind as these guys really do like me and would like to have a meaningful interaction or relationship but I just don't 'feel' it. And trust me it isn't for lack of trying... I try and spend as much time in their company, even indulge in some fun activites and yes physical contact....but I just don't feel anything emotional.

So this is my dilemma - do I settle and hope that at some point in being with someone the emotion will come back, or do I continue to try everyone on, searching for someone who will actually somehow get an emotional reaction out of me?

Please don't give me the age old time will heal all pains speech or the everything happens for a reason blah blah because frankly it provides no sense of comfort or reassurance. (And yes I have stopped the daily crying over ***** and really feel that I have moved on, all's forgiven and I have accepted my fate but for some reason that hasn't lifted this feeling of being a void!)

I'm sorry to be requesting this from you but hey at least its not asking you to come up with world peace! Perhaps your blog crowd would be able to come up with some interesting opninions/suggestions. "When you have loved & lost the One, do you settle for someone who thinks you are the One or do you keep searching till you find another One" ???

From the void
*****

If you have any questions answered by her, I will mail her and post her response, unless she requests that I don't post it.

I have my own ideas and opinions as to what I think she could consider doing but she also wants to know what you guys think... so, what do you think?

Humorous 2009 Election Adverts

Court approves marriage of girl, 8

Court approves marriage of girl, 8
April 20, 2009 Edition 2

RIYADH: Saudi Arabia was looking into introducing a minimum age for marriage, a justice ministry official was quoted as saying, after a court upheld the marriage of an eight-year-old girl to a man 50 years her senior.

Al-Madina newspaper yesterday quoted Mohamed al-Babtain, the director of marriage officials at the justice ministry, as saying the ministry had started "looking into the legal age of marriage". He did not elaborate.

Saudi Arabia has no legal age limit for marriage. Justice ministry officials were not available for comment.

The newspaper also quoted prominent cleric Sheikh Mohsen al-Obaikan as saying that girls below the age of 18 should not be allowed to marry.
Obaikan called for a ban on "marrying off little girls below the age of 18 to avoid these blights".

A court in the town of Unaiza upheld for the second time last week the marriage of the girl to a man who is about 50 years her senior, on condition he does not have sex with her until she reaches puberty. - Reuters


Have you heard of any similar stories? What should we do to prevent this kind of thing from happening in our country?

Article taken from here.

Zuma willing to reconsider abortion laws

Haven’t quite yet made up your mind who you should vote for yet? Perhaps this can assist you...

Zuma willing to reconsider abortion laws
April 17, 2009 Edition 1

PRETORIA: Christians have been invited to raise objections to abortion laws and same-sex marriages with a Jacob Zuma presidency.
"JZ was not president when these things were happening ... there are no holy cows," ANC national executive member Mathole Motshekga told a debate at the University of Pretoria yesterday. "Anything one had problems with could be raised," he told the meeting, which was considering why Christians should vote for a particular political party.

The debate, which was attended by the ANC, the DA, Cope and the African Christian Democratic Party, also heard criticism of Zuma for a claim that God was on the ANC's side.

The DA's Willem Doman said the claim indicated a "move in the direction of a dictatorship". - Sapa

Have you hear any other ridiculous comments and statements by various political parties through their campaigning? (Story taken from here)

Boys and their toys...

We went car shopping yesterday… I’ve never before felt so intimidated! The sales persons were all over me like I was a fresh piece of meat for them to devour!!! I think, no I know, that they knew it was my first time at buying a car through a dealer.

Yesterday we looked at the Hyundai Getz and the i10 as well as the Ford Fiesta. All 3 are appealing to us and fit the budget fairly well. Do you guys have any experience with these cars or know stories about them?

Like I said, I’ve never bought a car from a dealer before so I’m not really sure what sorts of things to be on the lookout for as well as what sort of things I should ask. What do you suggest?

We’re also a bit confused and I’m hoping you guys could assist me in answering this question: Financially speaking, is it cheaper to buy a new car than a second hand car?

Got any suggestions you can share with Megs and I?

Divorce will be a clean break for her

The more Megs and I discuss marriage and the rest of our lives, the more we learn about each other. We've especially learned a lot about each others habits, what we like don't like etc. I don't think we'll ever reach a point like the woman in this article where we will end our marriage! In fact, we don't plan on ever ending our marriage!!!

BERLIN: A German woman has divorced her husband because she was fed up with him cleaning all the time.

German media reported that the wife got through 15 years of marriage putting up with the man's penchant for doing household chores, tidying up and rearranging the furniture.

But she ran out of patience when he knocked down and rebuilt a wall at their home when it got dirty, Christian Kropp, court judge in the central town of Sondershausen, said yesterday.

"I'd never had anyone seek a divorce for this," he said. - Reuters

Article taken from here.